Question by jennifer w: I have a problem with my sister and her wedding.?
She wants me to be her maid of honor but she’s insistent on her attendants wearing blue dresses. The problem is she’s on a very limited budget and we’ve looked everywhere for blue dresses in her price range and can’t find not a one. I don’t want to hurt her feelings but I’m seriously thinking about telling her to find someone else to be her maid of honor. She won’t even consider going for another color. How should I handle this?
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Answer by FAT KAT
please tell her to come up with some more coins please
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If you’re going to tell your sister you don’t want to be her maid of honor because of the color of the dresses, I would say do her a favor and step down from being her maid of honor so she can find someone who isn’t self-centered and actually cares about her.
I feel bad for your sister – she doesn’t realize what a crapy sister she has!
I’m sorry, but I think this is a veryyyy petty reason to resign as your sister’s maid of honor. She may be a little obsessive about getting the color right, but it IS her wedding, and she just wants everything to be perfect as you probably will someday, too! Blue is a very common color, and I’m sure if you keep looking with her she will eventually find something affordable and nice. Instead of being frusterated and mad at her, try to help her out by searching stores without her (as I’m sure she’s very busy) and also looking online. She will eventually find a dress or comprimise, its not like she’s going to let you walk down the aisle in jeans and a t-shirt! Be patient- things will work themselves out, and try to be supportive of your sister. Another thought, you might want to try shopping at a bridal store for gowns because they have tons of dresses, all styles, and you can special order things in a certain color. In addition to that, maybe she can find a white dress she likes for you, and then you can have it dyed blue.
planning a wedding is very frusterating and stressful. She needs her sister to stand by her side not leave her. You should just agree with her and help her find the dresses.
Then let her keep looking on her own. I don’t exactly understand the problem here. Is it that your tired of looking for them with her, is it that she wants you to buy it yourself and can’t afford it is it that you don’t want to wear blue? If its that your tired of looking and she wont go for another colour then like I said, let her look on her own for something. Has she tried looking at just special occasion or prom dresses that may be cheaper? If not then tell her to becuase brides maid dresses from a bridal store are alot of money. Just hang in there and let her find something. Nobody said you need to tag along every time she shops.
DO NOT TURN HER DOWN. She is very sensitive right now and if you tell her you don’t want to be in the wedding it will injure your relationship….. trust me. This is one of those things that you just want to grin and bear it in the name of love.
Try a place like David’s Bridal. They have nice dresses, and are sometimes cheaper than other places. My other suggestion would be to find a white dress in the price range and see if it can be dyed.
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Wait until after prom (or the Marine Corp. Ball if you have one), when they mark down all the dresses. I got my girls $ 150 dresses for $ 60. And in my color. If you can’t find the blue, see if she’ll go with her secondary color. Don’t let something like a dress ruin that day for you or her.
Where I live, attendants buy their own dresses, so that would solve your problem. Would you really consider not honouring your sister because of a colour?
It is more traditional for the bridesmaids/maid of honors to pay for their own dresses. She picks them out. You each pay a little and it is a burden off her shoulders.
I had my attendants buy their own dresses…. I also went to http://www.chadwicks.com, they have a nice array of dresses in many different colors and the price is right. Plus the girls can wear them again if need be.
why not find a great seamstress and have the dresses made? she could pick out the style and have the exact material she wants.my sister did that when she got married,peach was her color,she had 7 girls in her wedding,mterial is cheaper when bought bulk,she bought the material,zippers,all it took to make the dress,each girl had to pay $ 80.00 for labor to the seamstress,good luck,robin
Tell Bridezilla to get a grip and go find them herself. Or pay for your own dresses like normal freakin people do…hello MOOCH!
If you love your sister….stop being a brat and deal with it….its her wedding and if you dont want to be her maid of honor than dont be. just know that it will hurt her feeling and she will probly never forgive you for it. She chooses her colors not you. If you have a problem with the price let her know she will most likely pay some with you if she really wants you to be in the wedding. Talk to her shes your sister!